How does hypnosis in Oxfordshire help you?
If you are struggling to change your emotions or your emotional responses to events, or if your behaviour seems to take on a life of its own without your wanting it, people often start by trying to logically fix it. You’ve probably had the experience where someone has been afraid of something (e.g. heights), and you’ve tried to explain why they don’t need to be afraid (there’s a safety rail, aeroplanes are safer than cars, etc.) — but none of your reassurances have any effect on that person.
Before I learned therapy, I used to be afraid of spiders. It didn’t matter that no spider has ever hurt me or indeed anyone I know; that I used to play with spiders as a child before I developed that fear; or that the chance of my having a bad reaction to a spider bite (should it ever happen) is extremely low. All this knowledge, and watching someone hold a pet tarantula and enjoy it, showed me that logically I no reason to fear spiders. Yet, there I was, unable to hold or even consider holding the tarantula.
I also had developed a phobia of elevators. Again, I knew logically that using one was perfectly safe, but I just couldn’t use it. It made no sense to be afraid, but there it was, my phobia.
It’s not just fears and phobias, of course. For example, some people respond with outbursts of anger to minor irritations (think of road rage). You’ve heard people who stutter. I knew someone who was always blushing. You might suffer from nightmares; repeatedly fail at relationships; or struggle with overeating. Some sportspeople suddenly hit a block where they are unable to improve and are filled with self-doubt. You’ve most likely come across people with terribly low self-esteem, and maybe even someone who cries a lot for no apparent reason.
Emotions aren’t logical
These are all problems of emotions.
The most important thing to realise here is that emotions, emotional responses to events, and behaviours, don’t start at a logical level. They start at a deep, unconscious level, which has nothing to do with logic, and everything to do with a combination of character, personality, upbringing, perception and life experience.
That’s why trying to fix this type of problem logically is doomed to fail. You can use perfect logic, plenty of research, and all the persuasive power that you can muster, but it still won’t change a thing. At a deep subconscious level, impervious to any logic, your mind has decided that this is how you must feel or behave, and that’s the end of it!
How do we fix a problem that’s deep inside, hidden from view, and doesn’t care about making sense?
Going deep inside
This is where hypnosis and hypnotherapy come in. When we use hypnosis, we communicate not with the logical, conscious side of you, where you have no control over the problem, but instead with the subconscious side that you normally are unaware of. The part of you that controls everything that you don’t normally think of — brushing your teeth, how to walk or cycle without falling over, when to press the clutch in your car — silently, seemingly effortlessly, and also controls your behaviour when you are not consciously doing so, such as exploding in anger at something that really isn’t worth getting upset about (everyone has done this at some time).
When that subconscious side of you works well, it’s fantastic. It frees your conscious mind to concentrate on making decisions, planning, learning, living a good life, and more. But when that side gets it wrong, it can mess things up. Anxiety, fears, addiction, inappropriate behaviour, self-sabotage, and much more, arise.
Hypnotherapy simply means using therapy with hypnosis. When you are hypnotised (there are different types of hypnosis), the therapist works not so much with you (or, rather the part of you that thinks of you as you) as with subconscious side, inside you.
It’s at that level where the changes are made, where we help the subconscious to choose different behaviours, different emotions, different responses.
Sometimes the results can be quick and dramatic, but more often there’s a fair bit of work to do. After all, how you feel and behave is a result of years of accumulated experience combined with your unique personality, so sometimes we have to untangle a few threads to get underneath, to reach the crux of the problem.
The good thing about hypnotherapy is that going into hypnosis usually feels wonderful. Most people enjoy the experience with a sense of calm. And, even though you might think that hypnosis is all about giving up control, in the therapy room, hypnotherapy is really about giving you back the control that you’ve lost.